Is Overthinking Keeping You Stuck?
Think again, it might actually be your your lack of clarity
If you’ve ever caught yourself circling the “what ifs,” replaying old conversations, or obsessively weighing up every possible path… you’ve probably told yourself you “overthink.”
But have you ever considered that overthinking isn’t your problem, but rather it’s your lack of clarity?
When you don’t know exactly what you want, your brain fills the gap with noise. It overanalyses, predicts problems that don’t exist yet, jumps from one idea to another, and keeps you stuck in the same loop. You feel frustrated, restless, and tired of your own thoughts.
Overthinking is a symptom - overthinking isn’t your problem, but rather it’s your lack of clarity
Overthinking Is a Symptom
If you’re constantly analysing, second-guessing, or worrying about making the wrong choice, it’s easy to assume you’re just an overthinker.
But most women like you aren’t stuck because they think too much. They’re stuck because they don’t feel clear enough to trust their next step. That was me.
When you’re clear, decisions feel easier. Progress moves faster. You stop replaying every option in your head.
Overthinking worsens when things feel foggy, your mind keeps recalibrating because it doesn’t know where it’s heading.
Clarity gives it direction. And this is something I learned the hard way.
When I was building my fitness and wellbeing business, it often felt like pushing a boulder uphill. Not because I lacked skill or drive, I had plenty of that, but because I believed I needed a clear end vision before I could move forward. Because I didn’t have the full plan, I looked outside for answers. I didn’t trust myself and what I truly wanted so every decision became a long drawn out process.
I compared myself to others. I questioned every move. I made choices based on what I should do, not what felt right.
That’s the same pattern I see in women at a crossroads. Highly capable, thoughtful, but disconnected from themselves.
I only realised I was running someone else’s race when a coach suggested doing something I had no interest in. In that moment, it clicked: I was living by expectations instead of my own values.
And that’s when things changed.
I didn’t need a perfect plan or a fixed end vision. What I needed was clarity about what mattered to me, and the trust to let that guide my decisions.
Once my choices started aligning with my values, the overthinking eased. Decisions felt easier. Progress felt smoother. Not because the path was obvious, but because the road I was travelling was now mine.
This is where clarity really comes from. Not from knowing exactly where you’ll end up, but from understanding what you value and allowing that to set your direction.
Why Your Values Need to Match Your Actions
That unsettled, restless, frustrated feeling? It’s rarely random.
It’s what happens when there’s a gap between what you value and how you’re actually living.
You might value freedom, but feel boxed in. You value health, but it’s always the last thought. You value growth, but your life feels strangely stagnant.
That discomfort is a sign you’re out of alignment with what matters to you.
You Don’t Need a Full Plan - Just Your Next Step
This is where many women get stuck. They assume clarity means having a five-year plan, this is what I had been conditioned to believe.
All my life, I was heading “somewhere”: finish school, go to uni, get a good job, climb the career ladder, buy a house, get married, have a family. These were the goals society set. Capable, ambitious women tend to adopt them early… so what happens when one of those milestones no longer fits? When you realise one or another isn’t for you?
Where’s the instruction manual?
This is exactly when clarity matters most. You don’t need the whole plan - you just need to take your next step in a way that aligns with your values.
Ask yourself:
What no longer feels right?
What am I no longer okay with?
What’s one small change that would make things feel easier?
That alone is enough to give you direction. You don’t need certainty, you need alignment.
What Happens When You Get Clear
When your values and actions begin to line up:
Decisions feel easier, you overthink less, you take action more easily, and you can see the wood for the trees.
Clarity doesn’t remove fear, but it gives you alignment. And alignment creates momentum.
If You’re Overthinking Everything….
Instead of asking how to stop overthinking, ask:
What don’t I know yet?
Where am I out of alignment?
What truth am I avoiding?
You don’t need perfect answers. You just need honesty to get you moving.
Want help getting clear on what you actually want? Join my free workshop “How to Get Clear on What You Actually Want” live on Zoom in January 2026.
About Sabrina
Sabrina helps women at life’s crossroads who feel stuck and hesitant but eager for more. She helps them cut through the noise, untangle the overwhelm, and build the clarity and confidence to move forward with purpose.
Whether you’re unclear on what’s next or blocked from going after it, she blends deep mindset work with practical systems and structure to help her clients untangle what’s keeping them stuck so they can build momentum and bring their ideas to life.
A former charity professional turned movement and wellness entrepreneur, Sabrina draws on her background in fitness and physical therapy to bring a grounded, whole-person approach to transformation. She’s passionate about helping women stop overthinking, trust themselves, and take bold steps toward something that truly matters.
When she’s not coaching, she’s usually in the garden, hunting down great street food, or planning her next adventure.