You want to leave. So what's stopping you?

You know you want to leave your job. So why can't you seem to make it happen?

You know you're no longer happy in your job. You want something different. A different way of working, a different direction, a working life that feels more like your own.

Perhaps you have ideas about what you'd like to do next. Maybe you've thought about changing careers, starting something of your own, or creating a working life that looks nothing like the one you have now. Or perhaps you know you want to leave, but you haven't a clue what comes next. Either way, you haven't managed to make it happen.

You've thought about it, researched possibilities and had endless conversations with yourself about it. You've probably made plans, got excited about an idea, then found yourself wondering whether it would actually work.

You hesitate, second-guess yourself, find reasons why now isn't quite the right time.

And that's frustrating, because you're not someone who usually struggles to get things done.

You're capable, used to figuring things out, you've made sensible decisions, worked hard and built a life that, on paper, looks pretty good. So why does making this change feel so difficult?

You want to leave. So what's stopping you?

Sometimes, the hardest part of leaving a job isn't knowing that you want to go. It's working out how to make the change happen without putting everything you've built at risk.

You might be telling yourself:

• You can't afford to give up the security of your current job.

• You need to know exactly what comes next before you can leave.

• It's too late to start again, or you're too old to change direction.

• You should be grateful for what you've got instead of wanting something different.

• You'd be foolish to walk away from a good salary, a pension or a position you've worked hard to achieve.

• You need to be more confident, more prepared or more certain before you do anything.

• You can't see a way to make a change that doesn't involve taking a huge risk.

Perhaps you're caught between what you want and what you think you should want.

Perhaps you're worried about getting it wrong, regretting your decision or discovering that the grass isn't greener.

Or perhaps you've spent so long following the rules that got you where you are that you've never really questioned whether those rules still serve you.

You might even have plenty of ideas about what you could do next. But every time you seriously consider one, your mind comes up with a convincing reason why it won't work.

Part of you wants to leave. Another part keeps pulling you back towards what feels safe and familiar.

It’s not simply about what you want to do next. It's what's getting in your way and preventing it from happening.

You don't have to risk everything you've built to create something different

I help women leave jobs they're no longer happy in and create a different working life.

That doesn't mean I'll tell you to quit your job, take a leap of faith or follow your dreams regardless of the consequences. You've got real responsibilities, financial commitments, a life you've worked hard to build. You need to take those into account, not pretend they don't exist.

But there's a difference between being realistic about your circumstances and thinking there are no options available to you.

And there's a difference between making a sensible decision and ruling something out before you've properly explored it.

You don't need to have your entire future mapped out before you can begin to make a change. You do however need to find a way forward that makes sense for you.

That's where our work together begins.

How I help you make the change

You probably don't need someone to tell you that you should leave your job, and you may already have a few ideas about what you'd like to do instead.

Together, we'll explore what's happening between knowing you want something different and actually doing something about it. We'll untangle the thoughts, assumptions, fears and expectations influencing your decisions. We'll question the rules you've been living by and look at whether they're helping you or holding you back.

We'll explore what's possible, including options you may have previously dismissed.

And we'll work out how to turn that understanding into action, taking account of your real-life circumstances and the things that matter to you.

I'm not here to decide what your next career should be, tell you to start a business or hand you a five-step plan for reinventing your life.

You decide what you want your working life to look like. My job is to help you work out how to get there.

The aim isn't just to help you think differently. It's to help you start making the change you've been wanting to make.

And along the way, you'll develop the ability to question your own thinking, recognise when you're talking yourself out of something and approach future decisions differently, too.

Does any of this sound familiar?

“I know I want to leave my job. I just don't know what to do next.”

“I've got ideas, but I keep finding reasons why they won't work.”

“I don't know whether I'm being realistic or just talking myself out of it.”

“I'm worried about giving up the security I've worked so hard to build.”

“Every time I get excited about something, my brain gives me ten reasons why I shouldn't.”

“I don't want to throw everything away. I just don't want to stay exactly where I am.”

“What if I make the wrong decision and regret it?”

“I keep waiting until I feel more certain, confident or ready.”

“I just want to stop going round in circles and start making this happen.”

If you recognise yourself in any of these, you don't necessarily need to try harder, become more confident or force yourself to take a leap.

You may need to understand what's keeping you where you are, question whether the conclusions you've drawn are actually true, and discover a way forward that works for you.

You don't have to figure all of this out on your own.

“I know I don't want this anymore. I just can't see a way out.”

If you know you want to leave your job, but you can't yet see what you'd do instead. The possibilities you think of don't feel right, or you can't see how to make them work.

My free Finding Possibilities guide will help you step back from your current circumstances and explore what else might be possible.