Why Do I Keep Feeling Stuck?
Is it really the old rules and out of date script that are holding you back?
If you’ve spent years putting everyone else first, meeting expectations, ticking the boxes, doing what should be done, and you’re now asking, what do I actually want? it’s completely normal to not have an answer.
For a long time, your life has run on autopilot. Direction was prescribed by society, culture, or family, and up until now, that has worked. But something has stirred in you. The old script no longer fits, and you find yourself in unfamiliar territory without a map. So how do you begin to navigate it?
To answer that, it helps to understand how you got here.
What do I actually want?
What You Want vs What You Think You Should Want
Most of us spend decades absorbing other people’s rules. Expectations about success, stability, responsibility, and status quietly shape our choices. Over time, prioritising what’s expected becomes second nature.
The problem isn’t that these choices were wrong, it’s just they were rarely questioned.
This is where confusion creeps in. You start second-guessing yourself. Decisions feel harder than they should. You may even find yourself chasing goals that look good on paper but feel empty. The things that genuinely matter to you get pushed aside.
This is often where an all-or-nothing mindset takes hold. You tell yourself that unless you have absolute clarity, you can’t move. That unless you’re certain, it’s safer to stay where you are. So you hover in indecision, waiting for certainty that never quite arrives.
The result is a growing disconnect because you’ve lost touch with what’s actually yours.
The Missing Piece: Honesty
Clarity doesn’t come from thinking harder or planning more. It comes from reconnecting with yourself, and getting honest about what’s actually yours.
Most of what I share now comes from hindsight - things I wish I’d understood at the time, things that would have helped me move on faster. I didn’t sit down and work through these questions intentionally. Of course they came up, and I’m sure you’ve asked them too. What I lacked wasn’t awareness, it was honesty.
I knew I didn’t want to keep doing what I was doing. I knew I’d been chasing status, and that it no longer meant anything to me. But I couldn’t move forward because my all-or-nothing mindset wouldn’t allow it. If I admitted what I wanted, it felt like everything would have to change at once, so I stayed stuck.
That’s the trap. When honesty feels like it demands a complete overhaul, it’s easier to avoid it altogether. But honesty doesn’t require immediate action, you just have to acknowledge it.
Without honesty, clarity can’t emerge.
So instead of starting with what do I actually want - start here:
What don’t I want anymore?
What have I been pursuing because I thought I should?
What could I let go of that would make things feel more aligned?
Answer these without judgement. You’re not committing to change. You’re not making decisions. You’re simply noticing what’s true.
All-or-nothing thinking tells you that awareness equals action. In reality, awareness creates space. And in that space, clarity starts to take shape.
Want to start moving forward - reserve your space in my free workshop, live on Zoom, I’m delivering in January 2026 on How to Get Clear on What You Actually Want.
About Sabrina
Sabrina helps women at life’s crossroads who feel stuck and hesitant but eager for more. She helps them cut through the noise, untangle the overwhelm, and build the clarity and confidence to move forward with purpose.
Whether you’re unclear on what’s next or blocked from going after it, she blends deep mindset work with practical systems and structure to help her clients untangle what’s keeping them stuck so they can build momentum and bring their ideas to life.
A former charity professional turned movement and wellness entrepreneur, Sabrina draws on her background in fitness and physical therapy to bring a grounded, whole-person approach to transformation. She’s passionate about helping women stop overthinking, trust themselves, and take bold steps toward something that truly matters.
When she’s not coaching, she’s usually in the garden, hunting down great street food, or planning her next adventure.