It Was Never Just About What I Did
It Wasn’t A Simple Decision Problem
Should I Stay In My Career Or Do Something Different?
In my 30s, I found myself stuck in a career that no longer inspired me.
I didn’t feel confident about what I wanted to do next, so I stayed there for four years, going round and round the same questions: Should I stay or start something new?
I couldn’t get to a clear answer. And the longer it went on, the more frustrated and trapped I felt. I did want something different. But I just didn’t feel clear or certain enough to choose it.
Staying where I was felt easier and safer.
Eventually, I did leave. But the indecision didn’t disappear. It showed up everywhere - in all my decisions about my future. Everything started to feel like pushing a boulder uphill. What I realised was, I had been trying to fix something… without knowing what was broken.
I should have started with: What’s not working anymore?
Looking back I realise I put it all down to needing to change profession, but in reality it was about something much bigger.
It was about who I was… and who I wanted to be.
I’d outgrown my life and I didn’t know what was next…
At the time, I couldn’t see it, but I was trying to work things out at the wrong level.
When I stopped trying to solve the wrong problem, and started reconnecting with what actually matters to me - identifying what I wanted and feeling confident about taking steps towards it became so much easier. I started to trust myself again.
Time To Approach From Outside The Circle
If you’re going round in circles, questioning why you just can’t make a decision, and it’s been months or even years and you are exhausted from still thinking about it…should I make this career change? Should I start again?
It’s not about the question. It’s actually about who you are - your identity.
The old version of you (identify your conflicting parts) is trying to make decisions about your future, so you end up in a stalemate.
I’ve recorded a workshop to help you understand the old version of yourself because that version of you is home to many hidden influences that quietly control your choices. Until you are able to recognise and challenge them, they will continue to keep you where you are.
Watch the workshop now.