It Was Never Just About What I Did

Should I Stay In My Career Or Do Something Different?

In my 30s, I found myself stuck in a career that no longer inspired me.

I didn’t feel confident about what I wanted to do next, so I stayed there for four years, going round and round the same questions: Should I stay or start something new?

I couldn’t get to a clear answer. And the longer it went on, the more frustrated and trapped I felt. I did want something different. But I just didn’t feel clear or certain enough to choose it.

Staying where I was felt easier and safer.

Eventually, I did leave. But the indecision didn’t disappear. It showed up everywhere - in all my decisions about my future. Everything started to feel like pushing a boulder uphill. What I realised was, I had been trying to fix something… without knowing what was broken.

I should have started with: What’s not working anymore?

Looking back I realise I put it all down to needing to change profession, but in reality it was about something much bigger.

It was about who I was… and who I wanted to be.

It was about the gap between the life I was living… and the person I was becoming. At the time, I couldn’t see it, but I was trying to work things out at the wrong level.

When I stopped trying to solve the wrong problem, and started reconnecting with what actually matters to me, identifying what I wanted and feeling confident about my decisions became so much easier. I started to trust myself again.

If you’re stuck in a decision and going round in circles, this will help you see why.

Watch the workshop series where I break this down and show you how to start untangling it for yourself.